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Pushed to Perform

6/21/2016

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June 20th, 1851

"I do not expect you to be able to continue your 'visiting,' nor do I think it the right work for a mother."

Frances Rolleston is the older woman advising a young mother. Even though Frances was never a mother herself, she knows that her young friend will soon wear herself out if she tries to keep on with the burden that has been laid on her by the ladies of her church. She knows that the "visiting" is held up as a duty, that is, guilt is probably employed. And when this young mother no longer can keep it up, she needs to hear . . . 

"So when you feel you cannot do it, do not think of yourself as lost or reprobate."

Edith is worried that she may be wrong to feel her children are more important than the church work. (Who put that idea into her head?)

"And do not torment yourself about 'idolizing' your children; they do not stand between you and God, that makes an idol. Your passion for your children is in the law of nature; God made the mother's heart such. Like other passions it will have its woes, but it is right and natural, and I doubt not will eventually be a great blessing to the objects of it."

Now Frances gives Edith a practical reason for not going out visiting, and calls on the children's nurse to confirm it.

"I dread your bringing infectious diseases in your clothes to the children when at home."

She explains the motives of those who are pushing her:

"Other ladies will want to make you work to save themselves."

And she has an alternative:

"Let the maids [unmarried women] and widows do it."

In all her experiences of working with women and children, Frances can say, "I never sent young mothers about on any business of the kind, for that reason."


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Building Bridges

6/8/2016

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PictureWindermere
When you need to get something done, who you know is, and has always been, important. Here's an example from FR's letter dated June 8th, 1847 at Bowness, Windermere in the Lake District:

"How much depends on seemingly trifling circumstances. Here am I in consequence of our decision that summer evening when I came to you so late to advise me whether to go to Hadley or Blackheath. At Blackheath I made acquaintance with Mrs. F___, of Grasmere Lake; through her I got my nephew ____ the curacy of Coniston Lake, and through that I thought of coming here myself. I have found an old Scarborough friend here already, and suppose, as usual, I shall know every body."

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